3 Things I've Learned Since Becoming A Mom...
Today is Mother's Day in Belgium so I want to do something a little bit different and reflect on my life as a mom.
As cliché as it sounds being a mom is the best job in the world and my children are my greatest achievement! I'm not a career girl, I've never been hungry for success and my kids are truly my biggest gift. Being a mom, taking care of them, it's what I love doing the most.
I can't really remember how life was before having them. Well I do to a certain extent but I feel like it really started the day I gave birth for the first time.
Here are 3 things I've learned since becoming a mom almost 8 years ago:
- Nothing can prepare you to be a mom.
I remember buying all these books when I was pregnant with my first about parenting thinking yes, I will nail this! Well let me tell you, no book will ever prepare you for that job! Kids don't come with an instruction manual unfortunately and you will have to figure out this new role by yourself. I've discovered soon enough how hard and exhausting motherhood can be (especially the first 3 months) but how beautiful and rewarding it is... Every age is beautiful but the baby stage goes so fast! I feel that it keeps getting better and better as I see them grow. All those sleepless nights, those hours spent breastfeeding and pumping, those days when I barely had time to shower... they were all worth it and I wouldn't have it any other way...
- There is no such a thing as too many photos.
When you become a mom you want to document everything! We took so many pictures of Benji but I wish we had more together as a family. The cycle of life went completely wrong with us but one day all your children will have is a picture of you. Make sure you are in those pictures. No matter what you look like! They won't care if you are wearing pyjamas without any makeup on. Now I make sure to take lots of pictures with Amélie because I know she will treasure them one day...
Whilst staged photos are aesthetically pleasing to look at and gorgeous to frame, the small unexpected moments are the most precious ones! The small clicks I made randomly with my phone are actually my most cherished memories...
- The world instantly becomes this scary place.
I'm quite an anxious person by nature. Well... extremely anxious to be fair. Becoming a mom definitely exacerbated this trait even more.
You become responsible for a tiny human and it is an overwhelming feeling. I remember that time when my husband bought a motorbike when Benji was two years old. I've always refused to go with him as I felt so responsible for our son. I was way too scared to get involved in an accident and the idea of failing him was just inconceivable.
Parenting requires a lot of balance. You just want to protect your children from every danger but at the same time you need to let them make mistakes in order to grow and learn. Not easy peasy!
Today is a very bitter sweet day for me... Each day is but holidays always hit harder.
I want to wish you all a Happy Mother's Day, I know we are a lot of mamas around here!
Enjoy every single moment with your loved ones, make new memories that you won't share with anybody else. Connect to those around you... go where the wifi is weak. You'll see, it's good for the soul! :-)